Radio Commentary
Sometimes, family conflict can lead to divorce.
For
children of any age, divorce or even separation is a major loss.
One
psychiatrist who specializes in this area said, “The scariest thing about
divorce for kids under age 6 is the unknown. It can be stressful, sad, and
confusing. It is not uncommon for children to think, ‘What will happen to me?’
”
To
ease a child’s anxiety, reassure him or her that things will be okay.
If possible, allow the
child to stay in the same school and neighborhood with one parent, to maintain
current routines. Stability, structure, and comfort are very important.
For the sake of the
children, it’s important to remain as cordial as possible with a former spouse
and be cooperative while discussing plans and schedules, especially in your
children’s presence.
It
also helps to maintain the same rules in both households, if possible.
Try not to undermine each
other’s decisions, and try not to blame or criticize your ex-spouse in front of
your children. It’s confusing and distressing for them to hear.
Presenting a united front
can be comforting and helpful for children.
The
main goal is to let children know that even though their parents aren’t
together, they are still loved. The most healing and reassuring message is to
say “I love you” as often as possible.
