Radio Commentary
Trust is an important issue with preteens and teenagers. Parents often
wonder how they can question their children without being accused of doubting
their judgment.
Checking up on your children’s
outside activities may not be met with enthusiasm, but it is still important.
Many parents have heard the
refrain: “I can’t believe you don’t trust me.” This can be a young person’s way
of keeping parents at a distance and feeling more independent.
It is not uncommon for young people to feel
invincible and to resent interference with their social life.
One author recommends that parents
respond to this resistance by saying, “We trust you but we are concerned about
the situation you’re going to be in.”
This response shows you’re concerned not with
the child but with the circumstances that could occur.
Point out to your children that
they won’t always have control over what can happen when they’re at a friend’s
house without adult supervision.
Ask questions in a
non-confrontational way.
Safety issues top the priority list
for parents. Young people are more likely to accept questions and supervision
when it is framed in this context.