Many
people believe that children today lack good manners and too often display rude
behavior.
That
may be a bad “rap” for the younger generation as a whole. Clearly, there are
examples at both extremes of the spectrum when it comes to displaying good
manners for every age group.
The
fact remains that good manners must be taught; they do not come naturally.
In
fact, bad manners are usually natural, selfish impulses that children are
sometimes allowed to demonstrate.
Curbing
poor manners and developing good ones requires parents to place real limits on
their children. A caring adult may need to have a tug of war with a child who
has developed the habit of a me-first attitude.
It
involves taking away ordinary privileges, and saying “no.” Sometimes that’s
harder for the parent than for the child.
Remember
that good manners are not just about rules. It’s also about showing children
how to be gracious and respectful.
Simple
words like “please,” “thank you,” “I’m sorry,” and “excuse me,” go a long way,
as well.
Teaching
manners may start out with a negative approach of restrictions and
consequences. But the outcome should always be a form of civility, respect, and
love.
