Wednesday, November 21, 2012

More decision making skills

Radio Commentary



            There are actions parents can take to help children develop good decision-making skills.
            First, always set firm limits. Children should know exactly what you expect regarding drug and alcohol use, gang affiliation, sexual activity, and school attendance. 
            There should be clear consequences for breaking those limits, and your enforcement must be consistent.
You should also be aware of the example you set. 
Children of all ages are aware of your attitudes and habits. They are more likely to follow your example than your lectures.
The old adage, “Do as I say, not as I do,” simply doesn’t work with young people.
It can help to network with other parents in your child’s school and in your neighborhood.
A good parent-child relationship is good motivation for your child to follow your guidelines and standards. 
Remember:  Influence is not control. Have high expectations. 
This means expressing to your child statements such as:  “You have everything you need to be successful” … and … “You can do it!” It does not mean pressuring children to achieve perfectionist standards.
            The road to adulthood is never straight and smooth. But parents can help on that journey with the right attitude and the right tools.