Feeling
safe makes children feel more confident when they meet new people, try new
tasks, and take on new responsibilities.
As
children grow, they also need time to explore their power and abilities. This
means parents need to let go of some control and help their children take
“healthy risks.”
How
do parents help their children learn what it means to be more self-sufficient?
Think about these questions:
How
do your children work through their fears or doubts? How often do you do things
with your children rather than for them?
What
do your children do that makes you laugh or feel proud? Do they know it?
To
help empower your children, tell them often that you appreciate what they do
around the house, at school, and for friends.
When
your children tell you about problems, confirm their feelings and help them
think through solutions.
Encourage
children to take new roles at school or try new activities that will be
enjoyable but not stressful.
Let
children take full responsibility for some chores. When you do your own chores,
do them with good cheer even if they aren’t fun. Your children will learn from
your example.
