Radio Commentary
When communicating with teenagers,
keep this sentence mind:
“Please think about what you just
said to me.”
Sometimes that simple statement can
diffuse a lot of emotion and distractions.
Here are
some important, teen-tested statements that will kill off communication and
should be avoided at all costs:
•
“Who do you think you are talking to?”
•
“Why did you do that?”
•
“What were you thinking about?”
•
How could you be so foolish or selfish?”
• “Don’t use that tone of voice with me.”
Communication
is critical. It helps to know these “killer” phrases when attempting to keep
those lines of contact strong with a teenager.
Focusing on
the positive is always the most effective way to go, though it can take great
self discipline on the part of a parent, who sees so clearly what needs to be
changed.
If you can
take the time to listen carefully, move the conversation in a positive
direction, and avoid phrases that can turn a teenager stone cold in an instant,
you’ll find it is much easier to keep the lines of communication open.
