Radio Commentary
In these times when everyone is
very rushed, it’s more important than ever to take the time to talk with your
children.
This is especially the case with
teenagers who may be going through some challenges.
Timing your
talk is critical. Choose a time when your child seems most receptive.
Here are
some quick, practical, teen-tested phrases for adults to use to communicate
positively with adolescents:
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First, say nothing for a while — just listen.
• Then say: “I’ve heard you say…” and paraphrase your
child’s point.
Ask: “Is that accurate?”
•
“Say: “What were your options or
choices of action?”
• Ask: ‘How were others affected by your actions?”
•
Then ask: “How could you have
handled things differently?”
This sequence of comments –
listening, paraphrasing, confirming, asking about options, focusing on others,
and then reaching a good conclusion— are all positive ways to communicate with
a teenager.
