Radio Commentary
Parents may be relieved to know that there are positive
alternatives to struggling with teens. It is never hopeless!
First, be
sure to use friendly actions whenever possible. Young people are very tuned in to
negativity and they react to it very badly. Sarcasm is never a good idea.
Second, use
one-word messages whenever possible. It may be hard to focus your thoughts into
a single word but it is well worth the discipline to try.
Once you are focused, it is easier to get your child to
focus appropriately as well.
Next, set
clear limits and stick to them. It’s hard, but effective to do this.
Teach
students that when they say “no” they can do it in a respectful way. Remind
them it’s not the “no” that can be a problem, but rather how it is delivered
and what it seems to signify. Give them alternatives, and try to negotiate
win/win outcomes.
Focus on
priorities. Nothing gets communication off track more quickly than bogging down
in trivial matters.
Give students
appropriate ways to feel powerful. No one likes to feel powerless. It can be
frustrating and it can lead to more challenges.
Finally, if
a major blowup occurs, a cooling off period can often place many things into
perspective for young and old alike. All these actions can help.
