There are actions parents can take to help children develop
good decision-making skills.
First, always set firm limits. Children should know exactly what you
expect regarding drug and alcohol use, gang affiliation, sexual activity, and
school attendance.
There should be clear consequences for breaking those limits, and your
enforcement must be consistent at all times.
You should also be aware of the
example you set.
Children of all ages are aware of
your attitudes and habits. They are more likely to follow your example than
your lectures.
The old adage, “Do as I say, not as
I do,” simply doesn’t work with young people.
It can help to network with other
parents in your child’s school and in your neighborhood.
A good parent-child relationship is the
motivation for your child to follow your guidelines and standards.
Remember: Influence is not control. Have high
expectations. This means expressing to your child statements such as: “You have
everything you need to be successful” … and … “You can do it!” It does not mean
pressuring children to achieve perfectionist standards.
The road to adulthood is never
straight and smooth. But parents can help on that journey with the right
attitude and the right tools.
