The teen years can be tough to
navigate, both for the teens themselves and for their parents.
It can seem as if all family
interactions and relationships have changed. Sometimes new strategies are
required to ensure smooth sailing through these stormy times.
Remember that teens need clear
limits that define what is safe and acceptable.
They need discipline that is
consistent and fair in all areas. They will be quick to zero in on actions that
are seemingly unjust — even if the practices worked when they were younger.
Teens need positive role models
who find pleasure in work, reading, hobbies, and family activities. No role
model in that area is more powerful than a parent.
Teens also need permission to
fail, with a tolerance for mistakes. No child can be perfect in every way. The
telling family interactions are those that happen when mistakes are made or
disappointments occur.
Never forget that teens need
the chance to laugh and be happy, with their friends and their family. They
need the chance to be successful, and it’s important to help them find an arena
where that can occur.
Teens also need structured
family activities, including meals and vacations. They benefit from friends who
provide a positive peer influence.
Teens need encouragement to be
responsible. Positive reinforcement helps.
They also need to be trusted
and supported by important adults in their lives. Most of all, they need to be
loved.
