We
have made many strides in tolerance and consideration for others, both as a
society and in our schoolyards.
But
human nature and normal child development dictate that despite our best
efforts, there will still be bullies and victims.
The
world is full of them, and our schoolyards are no exception. That’s why
teaching children to deal with these individuals is an important life lesson.
The
best way to safeguard your children from becoming victims of a schoolyard bully
is to teach them how to be assertive.
Encourage
children to express their feelings clearly and to say “no” when they feel
pressured or uncomfortable in a situation.
Show
them how to stand up for themselves verbally, without fighting. And make sure
they know to walk away in dangerous situations. Bullies are less likely to
intimidate children who are confident and resourceful.
Here
are some good ideas for parents:
• Teach your children early to recognize — and
then steer clear of — children who show bullying behavior.
• Teach them to be assertive rather than
aggressive or violent when confronted by a bully. They should say “no” or state
how they feel as a simple fact, with no “attitude” attached.
• Make sure they know not to threaten others in
any way. It is also very important for them to know how to walk away without
hesitation when it seems that danger might be present.
