There
are actions parents can take to help children develop good decision-making
skills.
First,
always set clear expectations. Children should know exactly what your position
is on drug and alcohol use, gang affiliation, sexual activity, and school
attendance.
There
must be clear consequences for failing to observe these rules, and your
enforcement must be consistent.
You
should also be aware of the example you set.
Children
of all ages are aware of your attitudes and habits. They are more likely to
follow your example than your lectures.
The
old adage, “Do as I say, not as I do,” simply doesn’t work with young people.
A
positive parent-child relationship is good motivation for your child to follow
your guidelines and standards.
Remember:
You should have high expectations, but influence is not control.
This
means expressing to your child statements such as: “You have everything you need to be
successful” … and … “You can do it!” It does not mean pressuring children to
achieve unrealistic perfectionist standards.
The
road to adulthood is never straight and smooth, but parents can help their
children on that journey with the right attitude and the right tools.
