Radio Commentary
Sometimes the best way to solve a
problem is to anticipate it and head it off in the first place. It’s a skill
that involves foresight and anticipation.
To help your teens develop these
traits, bring up a situation that worries you and ask what they would do in
that circumstance.
Listen carefully to their reaction.
Treat their opinions with respect. Make suggestions, but avoid the temptation
to lecture. It rarely works.
If you disagree with the approach
that your teen has provided, ask her to consider alternative actions. Discuss
different ways of reacting to a peer pressure situation.
Talk about the consequences of
various alternatives. Have your teen figure out the best course of action based
upon those consequences.
Leave the discussion open for
further consideration, and make clear that you are always available to help
clarify matters or offer suggestions.
If you don’t appear to be lecturing
or judging, your teen is more likely to take you up on that offer.
The goal is to help your child
think through the issue calmly — not to force your opinion or get a reluctant
promise.
Considering options in advance can
head off problems before they arise and give your children the tools they need
to react in a positive way.
