Sometimes, family conflict can
lead to divorce.
For children of any age,
divorce or even separation represents major loss.
One psychiatrist who
specializes in this area said, “The scariest thing about divorce for kids under
age 6 is the unknown. It can be stressful, sad, and confusing. It is not
uncommon for children to think, ‘What will happen to me?’ ”
To ease a child’s anxiety, offer
reassurance that things will be okay.
If possible, allow the child to
stay in the same school and neighborhood with one parent, to maintain current
routines. Stability, structure, and comfort are very important.
For the sake of the children,
it’s important to remain as cordial as possible with a former spouse and be
cooperative while discussing plans and schedules, especially in your childr
It also helps to maintain the
same rules in both households, if possible.
Try not to undermine each
other’s decisions, and try not to blame or criticize your ex-spouse in front of
your children. It’s confusing and distressing for them to hear.
Presenting a united front can
be comforting and helpful for children.
The main goal is to let
children know that even though their parents aren’t together, they are still
loved. The most healing and reassuring message is to say “I love you” as often
as possible.
