Monday, May 1, 2017

Communication don’ts

Radio Commentary

When communicating with teenagers, keep this sentence in mind: 
“Please think about what you just said to me.”
Sometimes that simple statement can diffuse a lot of emotion and distractions.
On the other hand, here are some important, teen-tested statements that will kill off communication and should be avoided at all costs:
  “Who do you think you are talking to?”
  “Why did you do that?”
  “What were you thinking about?”
  “How could you be so foolish or selfish?”
  “Don’t use that tone of voice with me.”
Communication is critical, so it helps to know and avoid these “killer” phrases when attempting to keep those lines of contact strong with a teenager.
Focusing on the positive is always the most effective way to go, though it can take a great deal of self-discipline on the part of a parent, who sees so clearly what needs to be changed.
If you can take the time to listen carefully, move the conversation in a positive direction, and avoid phrases that can turn a teenager stone-cold in an instant, you’ll find it is much easier to keep the lines of communication open.